Comm. Breakdown, part 1

Setting: Workshop
Length: 1:57:09

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Occasion: This is a marriage workshop done for a church.

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Communication Breakdowns in Marriage

10 Communication Categories
1.    Verbal
2.    Non-verbal
3.    Listening
4.    Wisdom
5.    Timing
6.    Situational Factors
7.    Our Spiritual Condition
8.    Temperament and Personality
9.    Disorders
10. Gender Differences

Understanding the Problem (part 1)

1. Not recognizing God’s curse on the marriage
Genesis 3:16
Genesis 4:7

2. Leaving the heart to its natural tendencies
            Galatians 5:16-17
            Mark 7:21
            Luke 6:45

            Prov.12:6
            James 3:5-6

An ungodly heart and nonverbal communication

Examples of facial gestures and body language

Cultural complexities with nonverbal communication

Personality differences impact non verbal communication

Our actions are nonverbal forms of communication

Question: is it possible to have bad nonverbal skills without having a bad heart?

An ungodly heart and listening

Listening is a heart issue: Matt.13:13-15

Heart issues that affect listening
Prov.18:2, 13

1 Cor.13:11

Factors (good and bad) that affect listening/interpretation and understanding

3. Not acquiring knowledge of my spouse’s communication style

Undeveloped knowledge of gender differences
2 basic problems related to gender differences in communication

1. Assuming that the other side uses communication the same way

2. When both sides condescendingly look down on the other side for not
using it the way they do.

* the main gender difference in communication deals with the purpose of communication
Women: use communication to develop relationships
Men: use communication to accomplish a task
*If the purpose of communication is different, then communication
will breakdown…if we don’t make adjustments

Gender Differences

Words and motives

Past people and events

Styles of communication

Finding comfort

Expressing loyalties

Most basic need

Undeveloped knowledge of yourself and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies
1 Peter 3:7

Communication Breakdown, Part 2, Pursuing a Solution, click:

Workshops on Communication Breakdown and Conflict Resolution should be studied together.
You will find a great deal of overlap between them.

For further insights into Genesis 4:7, click:

For further insights into Genesis 3:16, click: