Setting: Workshop
Length: 35:49

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Occasion: This is a parenting workshop done for a church where I have a consulting relationship.
Title: Disciplining Your Kids, part 3 of 3
Commentary: Part 3 focuses on the biblical principles of discipline, including principles of spanking and leading older children to repentance

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Operation:  Biblical Principles

THE Biblical Principle:  Ephesians 6:4
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead,
bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Parental Training and Instruction focuses on the heart

                       
The Early Stage of Heart Training:  Age of ignorance and immaturity

            God’s Design for Spanking:  7 Biblical Principles
           
                        1.  God’s law and His love must be emphasized

                        2.  Verbal instruction must be more frequent than spanking

                        3.  Privacy must be kept when spanking

4.  The method of spanking must be discussed and agreed upon in advance

                        5.  Spanking must be quick and painful

6.  You must discuss any restitution after the spanking

7.  Mercy and love must follow the spanking                       
          

The Later Stages: Age of Understanding and maturity

3 Signs that they are at the Age of Understanding                        

1.  They understand the gospel clearly
           
2.  They understand basic sanctification
             
3.  They understand the purpose of life
           

            Verbal instruction should be regular

            Verbal instruction should lead to repentance

2 Cor. 5:18-20

                        How to lead a teen to repentance

1.  Apply all the communication principles of talking to a teen                

                                    2.  Diagnose the situation and the sin with the teen
                                               
                                    3.  Discuss how sin works in our lives
                                               
                                    4.  Confirm the goal in life:  to love God and live for Him

                                    5.  Urge repentance

Review: Under Discipline (part 2)

Negligence

Permissiveness

Inconsistency

5 Symptoms of Inconsistent Discipline

1.  The rules are not consistently enforced

2.  The rules change regularly

3.  The father and mother disagree on the rules

            4.  Grandparents (or others) are there and have their own rules

5.  Discipline only happens in emergencies
           

Favoritism            

Biblical Principles in response to Favoritism

1.  The uniqueness of each child must be celebrated

                     2.  Different children – same love

                     3.  Similar life stage:  same application of discipline

                     4.  Different life stage:  different application of discipline

Review: Over Discipline (part 1)

Unrealistic demands and expectations

Physical abuse

Verbal Abuse

Emotional Abuse

Overprotection

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