Setting: Men's Ministry Conference
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Setting: Men's Ministry Conference in Milpitas, CA, January 2009
Title: Operation: Gender Responsibility, part 3 of 3
Commentary: As part of a series, this presentation is about creating gender responsibility. This is part 3 in which man's responsibility to learn about his woman is emphasized.
Main Scripture: 1 Peter 3:7
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Operation: Create gender responsibility (part 3)
A man is like Christ when he learns about his woman in order to protect and provider for her
-in order to meet her needs, he must know her
-he can’t meet her specific needs if he does not know her
-remember that a man is a man in relation to a woman
-from the first message to where we are now, we have seen the man as a manager
-who transitions into a protector
-who quickly transitions into a provider
-but in order for him to be a manager, protector, and provider, he must know her….
-and so, he must become a student of his wife….
-someone who is always in the process of learning how to be a good manager, protector and provider
-to study her…find out everything about her, so that he can meet her needs
-but you know what, this is what I see
-a man acts like hunter
-but once the catch is made, he relaxes
-but God’s design for the man is for him not to relax
-now, most men think that women are a mystery
Well, the biblical principle is….YOU write that manual!
-and so, you are an ON LOCATION journalist….studying your subject in her natural habitat
-as long as you understand her that’s all that matters
Guys say: women…how can you figure them out?
-the biblical response to this is:
-you don’t have to understand women
-you just have to understand ONE woman
-but the knowledge and understanding of ONE woman IS to belong to ONE man….YOU
-that’s God’s design
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
…be considerate as you live with your wives,
-literally in the original Greek is: dwelling together according to knowledge
-that means, you have to KNOW your wife
-you can’t write her off as an unsolved mystery
* this leader of a man is really a humble learner who seeks to learn as much as he can so that he can be the best manager of her internal wellness, her external wellness, protecting her and providing for her
-cf. the man as a manager, protector, provider….
-let’s look at the big picture for a minute
-the big picture is…that a relationship can only be built upon knowledge
-what he sees with his eyes, hears, thinks and processes about the other person
-without knowledge, there is no relationship
-the big picture here brings into focus the most basic reality in the Bible
-namely that without knowledge, we have no relationships at all
-no relationship with God, right?
-with the general knowledge of God that comes from creation, how do we know that there is a God?
-and without special knowledge that Scripture gives of a savior who loves us, how can we have a relationship with God?
-in his book, The Complete Husband,
-Lou Priolo writes about this basic reality
-he writes: Revelation is a prerequisite to a relationship
-if it were not for revelation, we would not be able to have a relationship with God
-to the extent that 2 people reveal themselves affects the level of intimacy AND UNDERSTANDING they will have with each other
-now, I have proposed that you are like an on location journalist
-and that you are under contract to write this documentary
-here’s another analogy: it’s like the salesman
-in order to make the sale, he studies the prospective buyer
-he studies the person’s background, formal and informal
-becomes acquainted with personal information that might make it a warm contact as opposed to a cold one
-in every way, he studies and prepares himself
-and the deal is closed as a result of his due diligence
-in 1 Peter 3:7 “…as you live…”
-which I said is literally in the Greek, “dwelling”
-is written in participial form in the present tense
-which means, it expresses an ongoing action
-translate it as “dwelling….”…..ing
-again, unlike most guys who thinking of living with a woman as a time when he can relax because the hunt is over
-in other words, you are on location and it’s a permanent assignment
-this is not like that English paper you wrote in high school
-after you wrote it and turned it in and got a B+, it’s over
-once you start writing, you will realize that it will need constant editing
* cause she’s going to change
-that means, she can change her mind….and she WILL
-she will also go through different chapters of her life which will change her:
-the writing…and the learning never stops
-men are able to see their careers and hobbies as a life long learning process
-many men see golf that way
-in fact, we even respect people who think this way
-we compliment athletes who have this perspective
-we compliment them by saying that even though they are a pro, they are still a “student of the game”
-we praise for their ongoing desire to learn
-so, men get it….
-now, they just need to apply it to their wives
-for it truly it a life long learning process
-so, a godly husband is one who is always in the process of learning
-as long as we are on this side of heaven….as the saying goes…
“the learning never stops….”
-the learnER is always learning
So, HOW do you do this?
How do you dwell with her according to knowledge?
-the word “dwell” in the original Greek is a container word
-meaning…it a word that holds many other things…like a container
-like a box with lots of things inside it
-a box full of relational things
-verbal, emotional, social, intellectual, physical, spiritual, etc.
-you have to do 2 more things
1. Observation
2. Conversation
Prov. 20:5
The purposes of a man's heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out.
What a radical concept this was in Peter’s day!
Men…this is what it means to be like Christ
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An overview of the entire series in analytical outline form. This will help you see and organize the concepts.
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The loss of gender identity
The loss of gender responsibility
The loss of gender based mentorship
Operation
Genesis 1:27
Male and female exist in relation to each otherCreate of gender responsibility
Males and females must discover their gender responsibility
Gender identity and responsibility is tied to the image of God
We reflect God when we are like Christ
Christ-like responsibilityA man is like Christ when he concerned about the spiritual growth of his woman
A man is like Christ when he protects his woman
A man is like Christ when he provides for his woman
A man is like Christ when he learns about his woman in order to protect and provider for her
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